tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1741724511543316422024-02-19T17:58:45.577-08:00Parental AbductionChild Abduction by a Parent or Family Member is a CrimeSusan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-79097830692128567442017-06-02T09:40:00.003-07:002017-07-12T07:12:31.268-07:00Brainwashing--Learn How It Is Done So You Can Undo It<div style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 22px; padding: 0px 0px 25px;">
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How Your Abuser Brainwashed You</h3>
Once an abusive person has your attention and empathy, the brainwashing can begin. Abusers tend to use certain coercion techniques to bring you under greater control. We’ll discuss them below. Before that, it’s important to know that your abuser didn’t have to <em>learn</em> these techniques from a book, at school, or during military training. Most likely, your abuser</div>
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<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">otherwise integrated control methods into his or her subconscious repertoire at a very early age.</li>
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As anecdotal proof, if there is such a thing, my abuser went to a military school in which he ‘learned’ how to control and manipulate the enemy during verbal negotiation. He came home one day, handed me the textbook, and said, “This is the easiest bullshit class I’ve ever taken. All this is stuff everyone learns on their own!” Er-hem. No. Not everyone learns how to verbally and emotionally control other people as a science. But my abuser did. And he ‘learned’ it so young that he assumed everyone had the same knowledge.</div>
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So, here we go with the steps your abuser took to brainwash you. Learning these steps will help you undo the brainwashing inflicted upon you.</div>
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1. Isolation</h3>
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Abusers isolate victims from family and friends. If the abuser cannot isolate you, then it is unlikely your relationship will last very long because your friends and family support you and point out things they don’t like about your new love. <strong>Your support network is your reality check</strong> against what the abuser wants you to believe.</div>
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Cults and other groups that use brainwashing to control others have multiple members who already fell under the group’s spell. The desire to “go along” helps cult leaders bring victims into the fold. Your abuser is a one-man-band (or a one-woman-band) so they have to work harder than a cult leader to isolate you. Abusers create barriers between you and your supporters by</div>
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<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">finding fault with your friends and implying you don’t want to be like them <em>or else</em>,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">introducing you to their group of friends (often other abusers) and insisting their friends are superior to yours <em>or</em> participating in social events only if their friends host,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">acting jealous of others and implying you are sexually attracted to friends or strangers,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">talking about you behind your back to make your friends doubt their perception of you (especially effective if your friends are catty, new to you, or young),</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">acting like such a great guy or gal that your unsuspecting friends cannot believe the abuser is the evil, foul creature they truly are,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">calling you their soul-mate and creating a fictional world where only the two of you exist,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">convincing you to move where they live or want to live, far away from those who love you.</li>
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In your relationships to come, be constantly aware of your connections to your friends. If you find yourself slipping away from your support system, reconnect immediately.</div>
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2. Monopolization of Perception</h3>
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“Monopolization of perception” is Biderman’s fancy way of saying four things:</div>
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<li style="list-style-type: decimal; margin: 0px 0px 0px 35px; padding: 0px;">Abuser says things that cause you to turn introspective – you look inward to solve problems of your soul (whether they truly exist or not)</li>
<li style="list-style-type: decimal; margin: 0px 0px 0px 35px; padding: 0px;">Abuser attempts to remove from your world anything they cannot control (doesn’t want you to watch certain television shows, talks badly about the groups/clubs you belong to, tells you where to get your clothes or wants to shop with you,…you get the picture).</li>
<li style="list-style-type: decimal; margin: 0px 0px 0px 35px; padding: 0px;">Abuser makes it almost impossible for you to do those things that are off-limits (texts/calls incessantly while you’re with friends, shows up unexpectedly, creates uncomfortable feelings, …whatever they can do to force you into compliance while making it seem like <em>you choose </em>to comply).</li>
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3. Induced Debility & Exhaustion</h3>
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Abuser attempts to weaken your ability to resist their control by</div>
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<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">Announcing certain emotions are unacceptable or make fun of you when you show certain emotions (you have no “right” to be angry or frightened, to cry, to find humor in anything other than sarcasm because sarcasm lends itself to accepting abuse through jokes),</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">Finding ways to make you feel guilty for not going along with them or agreeing to their opinions,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">Claiming your character is sub-par and insisting that you correct it,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">Keeping you busy meeting their “high standards” of beauty, cleanliness, holiness, parenting, etc.</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">Demanding you make friends with their boss’s spouse, attend social functions that enhance their career,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">Adding responsibilities to your life that are above and beyond what is usually expected in a relationship,</li>
<li style="list-style-type: square; margin: 0px 0px 0px 30px; padding: 0px;">And anything else that forces you to show joy or contentment despite the heavy demands placed on your time and character.</li>
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4. Threats</h3>
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The abuser threatens to leave you (or much much worse!) if you [fill in the blank]. The abuser’s threats are credible to you.</div>
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5. Occasional Indulgences</h3>
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The abuser will sometimes be especially nice or allow you temporary freedoms for being “good”. In the cycle of abuse, the period of indulgences is known as the honeymoon period which follows an episode of intense emotional, verbal or physical abuse. These intermittent treats come at any time the abuser feels they’re pushing you too hard and senses that you’ve had enough of their crap.</div>
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The abuser’s occasional indulgences of your wishes works to “keep you in the club” so to speak. If you get one thing you want even after you’ve lost a hundred other things you wanted, it is enough for you to want to “earn” more or to comply with the abuser’s demands. You may even fool yourself into thinking the abuser is “coming around” or changing.</div>
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In a reverse situation, consider a child’s temper tantrums. Every day for 3 days you ignore the child’s tantrum and do not give him what he wants. Then, on the fourth day, you can’t take it anymore and give the brat his candy. What do you think that child is going to do on day 5? One good thing after a hundred bad things is enough to make you keep trying to please the abuser – especially after your support network is gone, your abuser is your sole focus, and you’re mentally and physically drained by the abuser’s demands.</div>
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6. Demonstrating “Omnipotence”</h3>
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Most abusers stalk you during the relationship, use their friends or exploit lucky coincidences to prove that they know everything you do when they are not present. Perhaps they have a job in the military or working with computers and convince you that they can track you wherever you are (but, in reality, have placed a GPS locator in your car or purse). Your abuser may seem like s/he is <em>everywhere</em> and you do not have one second to yourself.</div>
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Abusers also display omnipotence by playing judge, jury, and prosecutor. They say what you did, why you did it, and dole out a punishment suitable to your crime. Nothing you do or say will stop the verbal or physical violence of their punishment, and by the time the abuser is done berating you, you may feel as if you deserve to be punished.</div>
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7. Enforcing Trivial Demands</h3>
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My husband once told me that I should know the exact cost of cleaning the bathtub. He wanted an account of the cost of the cleaning product, how much of it I used, and how long it took to clean the tub. He insisted that my time was worth minimum wage and wanted to know how much it cost him to get his bathtub clean each week. Your abuser will make the same type of demands on your time, thought processes, and emotional energy as you dread what will happen if you don’t comply.</div>
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The demand could even concern something that once pleased you, like gardening or painting. However, due to your abuser’s insane requests to do it this way, or do it during this time frame or under these circumstances, you lose interest or begin to detest your hobby (or job!).</div>
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8. Degradation</h3>
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The abuser causes more harm to you when you resist their demands and stand up for yourself. Anytime your anger rises and the abuser must deal with your fury, the punishment is quicker and more severe than if you just did the damn thing to start with. You feel as if complying preserves more self-respect than refusing to do it.</div>
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Your abuser will degrade you with words, through physical/sexual assault or rape, and humiliate you in front of their friends or your coworkers at any time. Your humiliation degrades your sense of self-worth to a level lower than scum on the bathtub you clean. You become “nothing” in your mind. You fight to prove your worth to your abuser in whatever fashion they dictate because, by this time, your abuser and your relationship with them is your only reality.</div>
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Your brain is washed clean of the healthy thinking and positive relationships you once held dear. I feel drained by simply writing this post and recalling the ways my ex brainwashed me. But, like me and a million other survivors, you can reverse the effects of abuse and brainwashing in less time than it took the abuser to gain control over you.</div>
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1 The basis of this article comes from the coercion techniques outlined by sociologist Albert Biderman in 1957. Later, Amnesty International adopted the brainwashing techniques in their <em>Report of Torture</em>. See <em style="color: #cc0000; text-decoration-line: none;"><a href="http://www.theneurotypical.com/psychological_coercion.html" style="color: #cc0000; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank" title="Coercive Techniques - The Neurotypical">Coercive Techniques – TheNeurotypical.com</a></em></div>
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Missing Children Support Ribbon PendantSusan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-74676682278923411782017-05-16T11:02:00.001-07:002017-05-16T11:02:04.555-07:00From Where You Are<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-62303355095727388752017-05-11T06:52:00.000-07:002017-05-16T09:33:11.693-07:00Complicated Grief Syndrome<form action="#" class="_5142 _2_4 _2_3" id="u_jsonp_24_6b" method="post" rel="async">
Do you know what is is like to have grief that is ongoing, unresolved and never ends? No closure or resolution. As Sean Cruz says: "no coming to peace with it". Can you even imagine what it is like? When a child dies, coming to terms with the child's death is part of the grieving process and resolution eventually achieved. However, when the child has been abducted and is still alive the grief continues like a "merry-go-round". Round and round it goes, incessantly. That is what has happened to Ron and any other left behind-targeted parent of Parental Alienation whose children have been abducted and are still alive. I first read about this when I found Sean Cruz's website and read about his situation regarding his children that were abducted a year before Ron's children were. My compassion for Sean and his grief, as well as Ron's is what drove me to make the video <a href="https://www.facebook.com/LeftBehindParent/videos/vb.522147991181165/849359871793307/?type=1&theater">"Slipped Away-Aaron's Law Oregon"</a> For I see and live with that same kind of grief and longing for Ron's absent children every day of my life. It is always there. It never goes away. Hovering like an albatross. For he knows his children are alive and out there living their lives without him because they were stolen. Here is the link to Sean's site and the article he wrote about <a href="http://aaronslaw.blogspot.com/2010/07/parental-abduction-wisdom-pt-7.html">Complicated Grief Syndrome and a Continuing Crime</a></form>
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Jodi or possibly Ron's children refer to his mourning the loss of his children as "whining" like a rejected teenager and implies he is "jealous". Where is your compassion and understanding for the father of your children Jodi? Once again, it is obvious she has none because she's nothing but an anti-social psychopathic sadist. A sadist who relishes and enjoys inflicting pain upon her victims. Why is there a need to stalk and harass us as she has these past 9+ years? She has what she stole, the children. I'm speculating the pleasure of having them is not enough. She needs more of a "fix" for her sadism and that is why she is bothering us. She needs to twist the knife into Ron's heart to pleasure herself, over and over again. In one of her blog posts Jodi said that I was "getting off" on all of this since she contacted us a 9 years ago. You are wrong Jodi, I don't gain pleasure from this or anything to do with you. I find you and what you have done repulsive and disgusting. I believe you are the one who is "getting off" on this......you poor sick wretched creature. Here is an example of the harassing sadism of an obsessed alienator that compounds the complicated grief syndrome for a <a href="http://parentalalienationalsyndrome.blogspot.com/p/being-targeted-parent.html">"targeted parent"</a>. What I find exceptionally revolting is it is done by the abducting parent, as a cruel way to inflict pain, get revenge and pleasure herself at someone else's expense. As if the denigration and vilification aren't enough in her "madness"(she has been institutionalized twice). Jodi has repeatedly called our home. She has had the police and her attorney call our home. She's sent harassing email messages to Ron and I as well as my friends and family on Facebook. From which I've had to block her. I've had my name linked to a porn site. I've had provocative email messages sent to me from minor young males with viruses attached. Jodi has also put up websites with her foul assertions of vitriol about Ron and I including pictures and comments about my dead parents, my dead friend and his family, my son and my alive friends as well. Ron found it necessary to go to court to get an <a href="http://susanarendsee.blogspot.com/2012/10/order-for-protection-from-harassment.html">Order for Protection from Harassment</a> because of her abusive and bullying ways. In one of his blogs Ron mentioned his son Ronald pondering whether he played football like Ron did when he was his age. Recently a new profile showed up on Facebook for Ron's son. We were pleased to see a current picture of him who was 15 years old at the time wearing a Guymon, Oklahoma basketball jersey posed with a basketball. It brought tears to my eyes. He looked just like his father, Ron. He has the same body build, hair color and haircut. His sweetness emanating from him just like his father. So reaching out to him Ron sent him a friend request. No response. Within a matter of hours the page was gone....deleted. Now, isn't that a sadistic thing to do? I'm speculating it was Jodi, baiting and teasing Ron. Using her own son as an emotional weapon against Ron because she's pissed about something again....maybe his recent song and video. Who knows for sure, for only she does. Well, Ron is right, "you will have your own hell to pay". So cruel of her or whoever did it. Such a lack of compassion for another human being. Sadistic. One thing about Ron, is his resiliency, his love for and devotion to his children and grandchildren. Whoever, did that just fueled his and my consternation all the more. For "Justice..will be served". There is more then one way to obtain justice in this world and it isn't always in a courtroom. For I know of many people out there that have been on the receiving end of Jodi's wrath and self serving ways other then us. Why else is she using so many aliases? She may be hiding from others she has wronged along the way. I am a beacon sharing the truth and pointing the way to the abuser's of Ron and his children and grandchildren. The rest will take care of itself. As a follow up to the posting of Ron's son picture on Facebook. It turns out that it was Jodi, as I had suspected. Playing her cruel self serving games. She was using her own son as a way to "reject" Ron. Now if that isn't just too sick and twisted.....shaking head. Something only a "Psychopathic" mother would do. Some 3 years after this occurrence Ron's son Ronald had a son the summer of 2014 whom he named after the abductor step father and his brother/uncle. Jodi could hardly wait to find out my response to something that unfathomable. Here is the link to the blog I wrote <a href="http://parentalabduction.blogspot.com/p/blog-page_2.html">A Grand Child's Legacy Stolen</a> We haven't gone public yet or to the media other then with our blogs and videos. "<a href="http://parentalalienationalsyndrome.blogspot.com/2014/11/psychopathic-obsessed-alienator-child.html">The Psychopathic Obsessed Alienator, Child Abductor and Child Abuser"</a> page has gotten more hits from around the world then any of my other blogs. I now have my videos about the Parental Alienation and Parental Abduction of Ron and his children on websites around the world. We're not stopping. The "Truth" will be told. There is more to come. Just wait and see. Keep coming back, reading our blogs and watching our videos to see what is next. Please share and pass on whatever blogs or videos from any of our sites to share with others "The Other Side of the Story". Ron's complicated grief continues....until he is reunited with his children and grandchildren or they die. In either case he then will be able to have closure of the kidnapping experience and "move on". For as Sean Cruz says; the abduction of a child is truly an ongoing "crime".<br />
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Parental kidnapping or parental abduction is defined as the concealment, taking, or retention of a child by his parent in violation of the rights of the child's other parent or another family member. Violated rights may include, for example, <a href="http://www.attorneys.com/child-custody/" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #840616; text-decoration-line: none;">custody</a> and <a href="http://www.attorneys.com/visitation-rights/" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #840616; text-decoration-line: none;">visitation rights</a>. Sadly, thousands of children are abducted by a parent and removed from the United States annually. Even more children are kidnapped by a parent within the confines of U.S. borders. Parental kidnapping also happens when a child is abducted from a custodial parent abroad and transported into the United States by the non-custodial parent illegally.</div>
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Make no mistake – parental kidnapping is illegal. Parental kidnapping is far more than a dispute regarding custody matters between divorcing parents. Such matters are relegated to the civil courts; however, parental kidnapping is a criminal act. In fact, parental kidnapping violates the laws of all U.S. states, the District of Columbia, and the Virgin Islands, plus U.S. federal laws and international laws. It is dangerous and can be deadly.</div>
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Parentally-abducted children live a life on the run as if fugitives. It is not uncommon to see a child receive a new name, nickname, haircut, dyed hair, glasses, or otherwise altered appearance. Children may be coached not to reveal their true names, birth dates, home states and addresses, and other identifying information. They may move often to avoid detection and recovery. School performance and social relationships suffer materially (that is, if the child is permitted to attend school). Even medical treatment may suffer because of requirements for identifying information involved in the registration for care and insurance claims processing.</div>
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Parentally-abducted children are traumatized emotionally and psychologically, especially if they are brainwashed by the abducting parent to believe that the other parent no longer loves them or has died. Abducted children are truly innocent victims of their parents' decisions and actions. Their relationships with other family members, perhaps even siblings and grandparents, are terminated, and their sense of family, belonging, and identity is compromised, if not lost entirely in the process.</div>
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What typically starts as a custody dispute balloons into a much larger tragedy with long-term and widespread impacts. Perhaps most tragic are the higher risk factors that abducted children face for severe psychological conditions such as <a href="http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/reactive_attachment_disorder" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #840616; outline-offset: -2px; outline: -webkit-focus-ring-color auto 5px;" target="_blank">reactive attachment disorder</a>, <a href="http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/generalized-anxiety-disorder-gad/index.shtml" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #840616; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">generalized anxiety disorder</a>, and <a href="http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/DS00246" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #840616; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">post-traumatic stress disorder</a> in both the short and long terms.</div>
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Parental abduction may seem a last resort and only remaining alternative to a parent fearful of an abusive situation involving the other parent, an international move instigated by the other parent, or even an unfavorable <a href="http://www.attorneys.com/child-custody/how-to-avoid-a-custody-dispute/" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: border-box; color: #840616; text-decoration-line: none;">custody dispute</a> playing out in the courts. Ultimately, working within the family court system to resolve custody matters within the confines of the law is preferable for preserving the well-being of all involved.</div>
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<span style="font-family: NewCenturySchlbk-Roman; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: NewCenturySchlbk-Roman;">Provides that ORS 30.868, regarding civil damages for custodial interference, shall be known and may be cited as “Aaron’s Law.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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This is an email Ron received from his caseworker's at NCMEC pertaining to his children, Ronald and Shelby Cornett. This is to clarify the false allegations made; that Ron made a false report to NCMEC as being inaccurate. He followed their guidelines regarding his children being abducted from Montana and taken to Oklahoma without his permission or consent. Ronald and Shelby remain unrecovered and unreunited with Ron since their abduction in 1997.Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-936638887471262032016-06-21T05:36:00.002-07:002016-06-21T05:36:38.061-07:00Abducted Children Suffer "Abducted children suffer emotionally and sometimes physically at the hands of abductor-parents. Many children are told the other parent is dead or no longer loves them. Uprooted from family and friends, abducted children often are given new names by their abductor-parents and instructed not to reveal their real names or where they lived before." (Hoff, 1997)Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-59134075934499779322016-05-26T07:13:00.001-07:002016-06-08T07:53:15.629-07:00Left Behind Parents of a Child Abduction-Ronald Cornett and Susan Arendsee<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjo8dsIflZFy_PGFEu_yF4k1vWXNeO8QazkojItrbEfyBo8O0vhl6i_ctxV745HuH6kG7mPhb1BC8AzNVYdUoYOtUZ2zroeuGux0ezjeqxAxxpcsM0b3SMXrlPbL-LGqNu6wyncDvQh3d8/s1600/100_1386.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjo8dsIflZFy_PGFEu_yF4k1vWXNeO8QazkojItrbEfyBo8O0vhl6i_ctxV745HuH6kG7mPhb1BC8AzNVYdUoYOtUZ2zroeuGux0ezjeqxAxxpcsM0b3SMXrlPbL-LGqNu6wyncDvQh3d8/s320/100_1386.JPG" width="320" /></a><br />
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In 1997 my partner's children, were abducted from their father's home in Kalispell, Montana along with everything he owned by their mother, <a href="http://parentalalienationalsyndrome.blogspot.com/2014/11/psychopathic-obsessed-alienator-child.html">A Psychopathic Obsessed Alienator,Child Abductor and Child Abuser</a> and <a href="http://parentalalienationalsyndrome.blogspot.com/2012/05/donald-wayne-griffing-thief-child.html">Donald Wayne Griffing, her enabler/accomplice/lover</a> who then absconded with them to Donald's home in Guymon,Oklahoma where they have hidden the children from their father (Ronald Cornett), the Cornett family and myself ever since. <br />
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This leaves Ron as the "Left Behind Parent" of a child abduction. <br />
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Eventually Jodi and Donald changed his <a href="http://www.susanarendsee.blogspot.com/p/identity-theftit-is-child-abuse.html">children's identities</a> by changing their last names from Cornett to Griffiing without their father Ron's permission or consent. Thus performing a <a href="http://parentalalienationalsyndrome.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-parentectomy.html">"Parentectomy"</a> in their attempt to have Ron erased from his children's lives. Donald Griffing then stepped into Ron's role as their father and had Ron's name replaced with his own on their birth certificates while adopting them. Ron never gave anyone permission to do this. His children and his paternal rights as their father was literally stolen from him. Shelby and Ronald now have two birth certificates registered with the Pierce County Courthouse <span style="color: black;"><span style="color: red;">(1-715-273-3531)</span></span> in Washington State. The original from the time of their birth with Ron noted as the biological father. The second, with Donald's name as their adopted father.<br />
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Later in 2006, Donald divorced Jodi and obtained primary custodial care of Ron's children that he abducted. This is why even though they were abducted and have been reported as "missing" to<a href="http://www.missingkids.com/"> The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children</a> by Ron and Ron has an open case with caseworker's guiding him in reconnecting with Shelby and Ronald, they are not listed as "missing" on the <a href="http://www.missingkids.com/">NCMEC</a> website. Both of them are listed in the statistic's of children that have been abducted but, not yet recovered on the <a href="http://www.missingkids.com/">NCMEC</a> website. They are "two" of the approximately 13,000 children that have not been recovered and reunited with their left behind parent. They are still "missing" to their father Ron, who has not seen either of them since they were abducted 19 years ago. <br />
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What would you do if these were your children that were stolen from you and your life, by their own mother and an accomplice-her lover? What would you do if a stranger came into your home and stole your family and all of your possessions? Think about it. Does it sound preposterous? Well, it is real and is what really happened to Ron and his children. I call it "Legal Kidnapping"......another form of "Child Trafficking". It shows you what you can do in the United States of America with enough money, an "ambulance chaser" attorney, like <a href="http://susanarendsee.blogspot.com/2015/04/blog-post.html">Christopher J. Liebman</a> and a determined unscrupulous agenda. You can literally "steal" or "buy" someone else's children....legally. Then step into that "parents" role as the "father". All a person needs is the opportunity, motivation, an unscrupulous agenda, an unscrupulous attorney and the money available to do it. <br />
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Text of Aaron's Law
Senate Bill 1041 (AARON’S LaW)
Sponsored by Senator Avel Louise Gordly
(now Chapter 841 Oregon Revised Statutes)
(note: ORS 163.257(1)(a) is the crime of Custodial Interference in the First Degree, a Class B felony)
AN ACT Relating to custodial interference; and declaring an emergency.
Be It Enacted by the People of the State of Oregon:
SECTION 1. (1) Any of the following persons may bring a civil action to secure damages against any and all persons whose actions are unlawful under ORS 163.257 (1)(a):
(a) A person who is 18 years of age or older and who has been taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a); or
(b) A person whose custodial rights have been interfered with if, by reason of the interference: (A) The person has reasonably and in good faith reported a person missing to any city, county or state police agency; or (B) A defendant in the action has been charged with a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
(2) An entry of judgment or a certified copy of a judgment against the defendant for a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is prima facie evidence of liability if the plaintiff was injured by the defendant¢s unlawful action under the conviction.
(3)(a) For purposes of this section, a public or private entity that provides counseling and shelter services to victims of domestic violence is not considered to have violated ORS 163.257 (1)(a) if the entity provides counseling or shelter services to a person who violates ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
(b) As used in this subsection, “victim of domestic violence” means an individual against whom domestic violence, as defined in ORS 135.230, 181.610, 411.117 or 657.176, has been committed.
(4) Bringing an action under this section does not prevent the prosecution of any criminal action under ORS 163.257.
(5) A person bringing an action under this section must establish by a preponderance of the evidence that a violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) has occurred.
(6) It is an affirmative defense to civil liability for an action under this section that the defendant reasonably and in good faith believed that the defendant¢s violation of ORS 163.257(1)(a) was necessary to preserve the physical safety of: (a) The defendant; (b) The person who was taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a); or (c) The parent or guardian of the person who was taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
(7)(a) If the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is under 18 years of age at the time an action is brought under this section, the court may: (A) Appoint an attorney who is licensed to practice law in Oregon to act as guardian ad litem for the person; and (B) Appoint one of the following persons to provide counseling services to the person:
(i) A psychiatrist.
(ii) A psychologist licensed under ORS 675.010 to 675.150.
(iii) A clinical social worker licensed under ORS 675.510 to 675.600.
(iv) A professional counselor or marriage and family therapist licensed under ORS 675.715.
(b) The court may assess against the parties all costs of the attorney or person providing counseling services appointed under this subsection.
(8) If an action is brought under this section by a person described under subsection (1)(b) of this section and a party shows good cause that it is appropriate to do so, the court may order the parties to obtain counseling directed toward educating the parties on the impact that the parties' conflict has on the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). The court may assess against the parties all costs of obtaining counseling ordered under this subsection.
(9) Upon prevailing in an action under this section, the plaintiff may recover: (a) Special and general damages, including damages for emotional distress; and (b) Punitive damages.
(10) The court may award reasonable attorney fees to the prevailing party in an action under this section.
(11)(a) Notwithstanding ORS 12.110, 12.115, 12.117 or 12.160, an action under this section must be commenced within six years after the violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a). An action under this section accruing while the person who is entitled to bring the action is under 18 years of age must be commenced not more than six years after that person attains 18 years of age.
(b) The period of limitation does not run during any time when the person taken, enticed or kept in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a) is removed from this state as a result of the defendant's actions in violation of ORS 163.257 (1)(a).
SECTION 2. Section 1 of this 2005 Act applies to causes of action arising on or after the effective date of this 2005 Act.
SECTION 3. This 2005 Act being necessary for the immediate preservation of the public peace, health and safety, an emergency is declared to exist, and this 2005 Act takes effect on its passage.
Passed by Senate August 1, 2005
Passed by House August 3, 2005
Approved by Governor: October 13, 2005
Filed in Office of Secretary of State Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-54560304057591812392016-04-26T09:27:00.001-07:002016-04-26T09:27:20.139-07:00Why Courts Fail to Recognize Parental Alienation<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="344" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/5fgRJh26Jho" width="459"></iframe><br />Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-22043135031044661652016-04-25T08:33:00.001-07:002016-06-08T07:45:02.660-07:00Faraway <iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="344" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/GGSE_yQTyJI?list=FL7gXtXwKtykmB0gB3QntftA" width="459"></iframe><br />
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A video about Parental Alienation that I made for Ron's children Shelby and Ronald. It applies to any targeted parent and their alienated child/children and grandchildren.Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-38394158534536316412016-02-28T00:59:00.002-08:002016-09-17T16:24:50.977-07:00NCMEC<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="281" mozallowfullscreen="" src="https://player.vimeo.com/video/56324698" webkitallowfullscreen="" width="500"></iframe><br />Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-88914602339366080272016-02-10T05:39:00.001-08:002017-01-07T16:03:17.698-08:00The Narcisstic Enabler<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Professionals in different disciplines identified and defined Parental Alienation as the pervasive practice of one parent against the other parent to destroy the parent-child relationship with the targeted parent. This is usually done with the intent to gain financial benefits.<br />
Since 1990, the year that The Convention on the Rights of the Child entered into force, a more pernicious form of Parental Alienation has permeated parent-child relationship. Now, Parental Alienation is perpetrated not only by alienating parents, but government ministries and departments, judicial systems and child protection services profiteering. Children are taken away without any evidence or proof that the alienated mother or father is harmful to the child.<br />
In order to comply with the yearly resolutions suggested by civil society organizations, known as non-government organization (NGO's) to the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child, Member States Parties to the United Nations initiated and developed the ongoing worldwide persecution of parents. As a consequence children are taken away from their parents for no just cause or no just purpose. The UN Committee resolutions are accepted unquestioningly and never contested by any State.<br />
Children Protection services agencies are privately owned non-government organizations (NGOs), contracted and funded by governments. Child Protection agents are forcefully and heartlessly removing children from their home, parents, grandparents and family under the most unreasonable and heinous excuses to trade children in the financially rewarding business of foster care and child adoption.<br />
This absurd cruelty and brutality has to stop now!<br />
LAWS THAT DEFINE AND PUNISH PARENTAL ALIENATION<br />
Mexico: May 9th, 2014. Civil Code Capitulo III, Art. 323 Septimus<br />
Brazil: August 26, 2010. Law No. 12318/10<br />
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<a href="https://www.change.org/p/u-n-recognize-parental-alienation-as-violence-and-abuse-againstchildren?recruiter=61962606&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=share_page&utm_term=des-lg-share_petition-custom_msg">Petitioning United Nations Secretary-General Mr. Ban Ki-moon and 21 others</a>Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-88293933194891995422015-06-12T12:24:00.002-07:002015-06-12T12:24:19.425-07:00Letter to Brad Henry-The Governor of Oklahoma~~Letter to Brad Henry-The Governor of Oklahoma<br />
This is a letter I sent to the Governor of Oklahoma, and I am going to be sending it to the Oklahoma Attorney General, the district Attorney in Texas co., the Mayor of Guymon, the Oklahoma State Police, CMEC, the Department of Justice, and anyone else I can think of! I am just getting started! You wanted it this way. I have given you and Donald every opportunity to resolve this. ARE YA READY??? I WILL NOT STOP UNTIL I SEE MY CHILDREN!! I am also considering calling the local Guymon paper and local TV news to see if they are interested in an abduction story that happened in Guymon's own back yard. The letter to the Governor has been sent and I will know when you read this and have proof you read it!! Dear Mr. Henry, In 1997 my children Ronald and Shelby Cornett were abducted from my home in Kalispell, Montana with the help of one of your states residents at the time. They were taken to Guymon, Oklahoma where they have been hidden from me ever since.<br />
The following things have occurred since their abduction:<br />
1. I have been denied any and all contact with my children over the past 13 years.<br />
2. The mother of my children, Jodi Rae Ross/Griffing a resident of Guymon, Oklahoma has abused your court system to sabotage my paternal rights as their father. She willfully withheld evidence, knowingly misinformed the court and its officers in numerous proceedings to gain custody and change the last names of my children. She said that I had no interest in my children which is not true. She hid them from me!<br />
3. She, Jodi Rae Ross/Griffing and Donald Wayne Griffing has now cut off all communication with the Cornett Family.<br />
4. Jodi, no longer has primary custody of my children herself. The man, Donald Wayne Griffing, who stole them does.<br />
5. Jodi, continues to threaten, harass and obstruct me access to my children to this day.<br />
6. I believe after extensive research that she fits the criteria of a Obsessed Parental Alienator.<br />
7. Jodi, presently willfully admits to intentionally destroying and denying me any relationship with my children. In essence she denigrates me.<br />
8. The most important item of all is my name has been removed from their birth certificates and they have been denied their rightful family heritage. From what I have read regarding the Oklahoma state laws pertaining to custodial interference, child stealing and kidnapping I believe Jodi and Donald have violated at least one law. My goal here is to hold them accountable for the wrong they have done and re-establish a relationship with my children who I love and were taken without my knowledge and without my consent. My only alternative is spending 10's of thousands of $$ in a civil venture and is an action which I will reserve until my children mature and reach an age of 18. So that the mental and emotional anguish they will incur will be minimal. Another avenue I have considered is overturning their misinformation in their court proceedings one by one. Which would be expensive, long, tedious and my children would probably reach 18 years before the proceedings are concluded. It sickens me to know that someone can take children, run thousands of miles away, and hide them in your state making it so difficult for an average man and so expensive to challenge anything they do. In general I find it hard to believe someone can take their children without the other parents permission, run across the country with them, make up whatever stories suit their agenda and not be held accountable. If this is the case our country seriously needs to look at the laws pertaining to child abduction, child kidnapping and any other laws that are ignorant of this reality. This is reality for me. I have lived with this for 13 1/2 years.<br />
And no one can even come close to imagine the pain and suffering that goes with having your children taken and never knowing what happened to them. What little information I do gather sickens me and all points to Jodi and Donald's denigration of me. This is clearly Parental Alienation at its best.<br />
Sincerely, Ronald CornettSusan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-9531198917447135432015-06-02T08:51:00.001-07:002016-06-21T05:37:20.680-07:00Abducted Children Suffer "Abducted children suffer emotionally and sometimes physically at the hands of abductor-parents. Many children are told the other parent is dead or no longer loves them. Uprooted from family and friends, abducted children often are given new names by their abductor-parents and instructed not to reveal their real names or where they lived before." (Hoff, 1997)Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-67562916666454931232015-05-07T04:46:00.001-07:002015-05-21T05:06:17.185-07:00Wake Up-Bring Me to Life <iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="344" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/3yK8oWZG9S8?list=FL7gXtXwKtykmB0gB3QntftA" width="459"></iframe><br />
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Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-54879651670313010572015-04-25T08:20:00.001-07:002015-04-25T08:20:23.623-07:00It Continues....Here Without You<iframe src="https://onedrive.live.com/embed?cid=A120569209C5AD4F&resid=a120569209c5ad4f%21343&authkey=ADt1K0tUU2Z9UoQ" width="165" height="128" frameborder="0" scrolling="no"></iframe>Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-7976255941101893652015-04-19T09:38:00.004-07:002015-04-19T09:38:56.197-07:00It's For the Children<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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CHARLESTON,
S.C., Feb 10 (Reuters) - A woman accused of kidnapping her infant
daughter from South Carolina in 1994 and living overseas with her for
nearly two decades was sentenced to 21 months in a U.S. prison on
Tuesday.<br />
Dorothy Lee Barnett, 54, who was arrested in 2013 in
Australia and extradited in September to Charleston, South Carolina,
pleaded guilty to federal charges of international parental kidnapping
and falsifying passports.<br />
Prosecutors have said Barnett vanished
with her baby girl during a court-approved visit in South Carolina after
her ex-husband, Benjamin Harris Todd, was granted legal custody of
their child in a contentious divorce.<br />
Barnett moved overseas,
remarried and changed her name to Maria Geldenhuys, according to court
records. She also renamed her daughter from Savanna to Samantha and told
her child that Barnett's new husband was the girl's father, prosecutors
said.<br />
In tearful testimony on Monday, the daughter, Samantha
Geldenhuys, now 21, said she was shocked to learn just a few years ago
that she had another identity.<br />
"I've had the opportunity to meet
with my biological father for a few hours," she said. "It was an
experience that I cannot describe in one word."<br />
The daughter and
Barnett's attorney asked U.S. District Court Judge Richard Gergel to
give Barnett a sentence that did not include prison time, but the judge
said he needed to send a message as a deterrent to others.<br />
"This was a calculating, methodical crime carried out in a very deliberate way," Gergel said.<br />
The
judge said he expected Barnett would get credit for the nearly 15
months she already spent in jail in Australia and South Carolina since
her arrest.<br />
According to court records, Todd received custody of
the couple's daughter after a Charleston family court judge noted
Barnett had "psychological and emotional problems."<br />
Using an
alias, Barnett obtained a driver's license in Texas and then a U.S.
passport in order to leave the country, court documents showed.<br />
U.S.
investigators found the mother and daughter living in Australia in
2012. Barnett told investigators that she had traveled to Malaysia,
South Africa, Botswana, New Zealand and Australia after leaving South
Carolina.<br />
Todd's attorney, J. Graham Sturgis, said both the father, who did not attend the hearing, and daughter are victims in the case.<br />
"(Todd)
suffered the immeasurable loss of his child," Sturgis said, adding that
she "can never realize the love from her father during childhood or the
experiences and opportunities deprived her by her mother's
selfishness." Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-174172451154331642.post-92184364259266985562015-02-06T04:48:00.002-08:002017-05-11T06:19:55.101-07:00Petition to the Senate/Congress of the United States of America to Stop Parental Alienation by Making it a Crime Punishable by Law<h3 class="post-title entry-title" itemprop="name">
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STOP THE EPIDEMIC OF PARENTAL ALIENATION NOW..<br />
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<a href="http://www.petition2congress.com/17261/every-child-has-fundamental-right-need-loving-relationship-with-b/">Petition2Congress</a></h3>
We The Undersigned Call Upon The Senate/ Congress Of The United States
Of America to Stop Parental Alienation By Making it A Crime Punishable
By Law.<br />
<br />
This petition is for all children world wide who are suffering as a
result of the selfish affairs between two parents. When a child is
alienated from a parent, it is not just a mere separation between two
people, it is the creation of a life-long hiatus affecting the child for
the rest of his/her life.<br />
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Parental alienation is child abuse by one parent who programs the child
or children of the marriage to denigrate or target the other parent in
an effort to undermine and interfere with the childs relationship with
that parent. This syndrome is often a sign of the offending parents
inability to separate from the couples conflict and focus on the childs
needs. Rather, the offending parent uses the children in his or her war
against the other parent.<br />
<br />
Parental alienation deprives children of their right to be loved and to
show love to both of their parents. The alienating parent (and often
other family members) mentally manipulate or bully children into
believing a loving parent is the cause of all of the their or the
familys problems; therefore the other parent must be the enemy, be
feared, hated, disrespected and avoided. Hatred is not a normal emotion
for children, rather it must be taught. <br />
<br />
Signs of parental alienation include:<br />
Bad-mouthing the other parent to the children<br />
Limiting contact<br />
Erasing the parent from the childrens lives<br />
Forcing the children to reject the other parent<br />
Forcing the children to choose sides<br />
Creating the impression the other parent is dangerous<br />
Belittling comments to the other parent in front of the children<br />
Calling the children to testify against the other parent<br />
Convincing the children the other parent is creating financial hardship on the family<br />
<br />
Every child has a fundamental right and need for a loving relationship
with both parents and to be denied that right by one parent, without
sufficient justification (abuse, serious neglect, etc.), is in itself a
form of child abuse, since it is the child who is violated by an
alienating parents behavior. The children suffer most. Reunification
of the family takes a skilled professional and can be a trying time
since the children are often in a continued abusive relationship with
the alienating parent, who cannot let go of his or her own conflict with
the other parent. <br />
<br />
Children deserve better as parental alienation leaves children with deep
emotional scars as damaging as abducted children or victims of sexual
abuse and extreme conflicts. Children often are left with
post-traumatic stress syndrome due to the damage caused by the
alienating parent. The severe effects of parental alienation on
children are well-documented: low self-esteem and self-hatred, lack of
trust, depression and substance abuse are widespread in children who
have suffered through parental alienation. Children internalize the
hatred that is taught to be targeted to the alienated parent.<br />
<br />
<br />
The absence of love and the lack of presence to the child from many of
his/her family members, such as: grandparents, aunts, uncles, brothers,
and sisters. It uproots the child's identity, and by doing this horrific
act they are destroying the child's emotional foundation.<br />
<br />
A parent should not have the right to want to damage the relationship of
their own child with the other parent at their own child's expense!<br />
<br />
What we do to help our children today as a nation will remain immortal. We Must Abolish Parental Alienation!<br />
<br />
Parental alienation is a crime committed against innocent children and should be punishable by law.<br />
<br />
Please don't allow another child to suffer do to parental alienation. Make the difference by signing this petition!<br />
<br />
Please, help abolish parental alienation. It affects all of us.<br />
We must have emotionally stable children in order to live in a stable world. <br />
<br />
When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you
get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes
from knowing you are working to make things better.<br />
<br />
If you are reading this petition find it in your heart to understand the
pain and the suffering of innocent children. Every single signature is
going to make the difference to help abolish the pain and suffering due
to parental alienation.<br />
<br />
Being there for your children at all times is the indispensable element of pure love.<br />
<br />
Dr. Michelle King.<br />
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<a href="http://www.petition2congress.com/17261/every-child-has-fundamental-right-need-loving-relationship-with-b/">Petition2Congress</a>Susan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.com0